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The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

Mindset Is crucial towards the life we desire

Mindset Is crucial towards the life we desire

Why is Mindset important? Well, as humans go we think and behave from the way we feel by the events that happen in our lives!! We decided to get hurt, angry and even strike back at others for hurting our feelings!! The only person that can hurt us is ourselves! You can believe it OR not but it is the truth… 

Why do you think war starts or relationships fall apart, it’s because of the perception of the event that has created the feeling or belief in the first place that becomes our outcome in life…

Just imagine if we knew what was causing the feelings that started every argument in the world and we knew how to deal with it… the world would be in a better space then now… 

There would be less than nothing to argue about… WOW, that would be something to see if we were able to live like that on a daily basis… hmmmmm…

Just imagine what your life would be like if you could process your thoughts that caused your unhappiness! Well, there would be a whole bunch of people walking around with permanent smiles on their faces… LOL 

There would be so much laughing going on in our lives or the world for matter without fear of judgement or negative influences in life… When we look at ourselves as the person who is creating everything that happens to us and for us… Life would be so much happier than if we didn’t take responsibility for our thoughts and feelings and behaviours!!!

What do you want in your life?

Do you want more skills to deal with issues or problems in your life?

If your answer is “NO WAY SIR I CAN DO IT ALL ON MY OWN” then that is your answer to stay where you are at NOW!!!

Well if your answer is “YES I WANT TO CREATE CHANGE IN MY LIFE!! 

Then let’s talk about what my wife and I can create to help you HELP YOURSELF…

Do You Have The Courage To Think differently???

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

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Change Your Perception Change Your Outcomes - Stefan Neff

The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

The Perception Of Others Is What Held Me Back From A Successful Relationship With My Wife

So this is how it went down in our house!! So many years ago, I would think I was right and she was wrong – well, that was my perception of how I thought the truth was, but on her side of the coin was something totally different.

I had only picked out what I wanted to see and was blinded by the real truth of the situation.

Why was I thinking this way?

I didn’t want to face what I was doing. I could only see the front side of the two-sided coin. Means there is always two sides to every story.

When I looked at my life from my eyes today I can see what and how I was thinking, WOW what a close-minded MAN I was — My thoughts were on the protection of my self bride and NOT on the real truth.
The event in life lead to – “THOUGHTS” that lead to “FEELINGS” follows how we “BEHAVE” = “OUTCOMES”

This formula of life is the freedom that I needed to release my perception of the events that happened in my life…

Why is this formula so powerful to use to create change in life? Well, now I can understand where my feelings are coming from and I can solve the major problems that occur in my life today!!

YES, the situation does pop-up time to time that causes me to have perception issues. Then new habit on problem-solving springs into action and with practice, patience and persistence come relief after a few minutes…
What are you doing to solve your issues that pop into your life?

What are you doing to fix your perceptions of the events that are causing you problems in your relationships?

Would you use this FORMULA “E-T-F-B=O” “EVENTS – THOUGHTS – FEELINGS – BEHAVIOURS = OUTCOMES” to fix your problems in your relationships???

If you want to know how this formula works and how to implement into your life when the problem occurs then we can work together in finding the right path towards your happiness today…

Do You Have The Courage To Perceive Life In A New LIGHT??

You can contact us via email at stefanneff53@gmail.com or text me at 778-551-0419 to find out more about creating happiness in your relationship with yourself and others…

The Day we got Remarried together Without love in our Heart

I remember the day like it was yesterday when we got remarried, looking for a free pass to citizenship without love. The plan was to just fake it for the reasons that were overwhelmed feeling to have her and my son sent back to there country 4000 miles away from my control. I couldn’t get them out of my mind if they were gone from my sight because they might be deported without cause. I look for seasons to let them go but there where no other options to be seen. So we went for it for all it was worth in the world, if they found out what we were up to they would definitely recommend to everyone who has been watching us with unbelievable concern to help themselves to say goodbye forever. I had a plan in my mind to save them from the grasp of the immigration service to guide them back to shame again, this wasn’t going to happen to me. I started to realize that in order for this to work we had to start a real relationship that was full of love. Well the only way for this to be true I had to change my way of thinking, for this so incredibly hard work for my head to figure out how to make happen. The times we spent with each other was starting to pay off, for our life was about to change forever more. Months went by with still with a uneasiness about our relationship to be more than just a marriage without love, but our son needed to have a father in his life. Our son wanted to play soccer in September as a father that played the game when he was a child growing up, this a moment of joy for me. I was willing to do anything it took to make this a reality in his life. I signed him up, but went though some difficult time trying to sign him up without a credit card. I found a way with cash only, this had to meet with the lady in charge of all the soccer teams involved. I meet her at the evaluation day wondering what was going to happen. Well for this was one of my most memorable moments in my life, she asked me if I could coach his team because nobody was interested in helping with his team. I said absolutely YES YES I would do it without hesitation in my throat. For this was my chances to make a difference between myself and my sons mother. 

I will be back tomorrow with more of this storyline to be told. 

What was about to happen will make your eyes weep with tears of pain.

Until next time be happy to your partners in love and within your heart.

From Friday’s post you will see what was told.